Sex Before Marriage

[lpxxfaintxx]

Is losing virginity worth the trouble? Sex before marriage can lead to many problems, such as STD's, pregnancies, etc. Even in the Bible it says Sex Before Marriage is wrong. However, most teens lose their virginity before marriage. What do you think about this issue?

[kevinj]

Hmmm, Sex before marriage?!? It's something that I guess is becoming more widely excepted in allot of countries. It's almost as if most relationships are built around sex? My feelings towards it are; it is OK but be prepared for the consequences! This is one thing though, that is helping the increase of children being raised by a single parent; purely because both sexes are not technically tied down. They are able to walk away, not caring what they do can affect the upbringing of a child!!

[putis]

Sex, like most things, can be beneficial or harmful to any situation.
Having sex for the wrong reasons, can be detrimental to most relationships.
Sex can however, be a beautiful and enjoyable thing that people share.

[Crystal Shards]

I did. It was a mistake only because I chose the wrong guy to lose it to. But that's what happens when you think it's going to last forever and that they really love you. But I don't think it's really that big of a deal. I mean honestly, I don't care and I'm not going to judge someone based on a decision that doesn't affect me or anyone else but them.

Unprotected sex, however, is a bad idea.

~Crystal

[MafiaMaster]

I lost mine before marriage and I could care less to be honest. I hasn't made me any less of a man or anything and if its what happens, it's what happens. However, there is something I want to say. I don't believe in waiting for marriage. Sex is an important part of any relationship, in my opinion and some people just don't connect well during sex. You wouldn't buy a car without testing it, so why get married without knowing if the sex is good?

[Lpspider]

I'm a Christian, and I believe it is wrong.

Originally Posted by MafiaMaster

You wouldn't buy a car without testing it, so why get married without knowing if the sex is good?

If you never have sex outside marriage, you won't have anything to compare it to. And you shouldn't marry the person for their sex anyway.

[Viety Cent]

^ im a Catholic we basically believe that sex before marriage is seen as a sign of commiting adultery, and thus is degrading our body for pleasure of the devil

[Janine]

Ahh.
I really want to have Marriage before Sex...

[The New Black]

This topic is kind of iffy for me, because I understand why people say it's wrong. What do I think? I think it's alright, as long as its not unprotected. As long as your having safe sex, and you don't do it with a different person every other night.. Fine by me. I think most people now are starting to accept it, and most of them have never even been married themselves.

[Buus]

I don't get the idea. an I've never met anyone who had the same stance.
Isn't it about feeling ready to have sex, and share something beautiful with someone you like or love?

sex is the most basic, fundamental instinct of all life.
But you still have to take precautions like everything else.

[Degslon]

I have a firm belief that a serious marriage should come before sex. Sex should not be the relationship, it should benefit the relationship. I belive you should'nt just "try it out" because your meant to have one husband or wife that you are very dedicated to. That's my take.

[Nothing2Prove]

well maybe if they are about to get engaged or w.e. but not like when ur 16-19 and just messing around

[Fusion]

It's not a bad thing. I think that the whole sex before marriage thing is too overrated and that adults should honestly stop worrying about it so much. We don't live in the 1900's anymore, it's the 21st century now. Besides, it doesn't really matter if you use protection or prevent pregnancy.

[yensed]

I've always thought "Waiting till your married" was goofy. I know many people have different beliefs on the subject, And I respect that. But the way I always looked at the "No sex before marriage" rule, was as something made up so no-one-person is uncomfortable with his/her sexual parts or his/her sexual performance. And so the First time is as special as possible, as opposed to being a cheap no-meaning orgasm.
Two newlyweds
No one person is "bad" at sex since its both new to them. They both learn together.
No uncomfortable (mental)feelings about breast or penis size since they haven't experienced or seen anything else.
etc...
I can see the romance and beauty in staying pure for each other till marriage. But if you both love and cherish each other with all your heart and know your relationship isn't going to be based solely on sex, you can experience the same thing(With or without marriage).

[reddeth]

Originally Posted by lpxxfaintxx

Is losing virginity worth the trouble? Sex before marriage can lead to many problems, such as STD's, pregnancies, etc. Even in the Bible it says Sex Before Marriage is wrong. However, most teens lose their virginity before marriage. What do you think about this issue?

NO! Careless and casual sex can lead to problems. I have had at least 2 'friends with benefits'. None of us wanted a relationship, but we wanted a physical interaction, it was safe, controlled, and honestly? The best damn sex I've ever had...

I'm not trying to suggest that people go out and 'get laid', and I'm not saying theres anything wrong with waiting, if thats what you beleive is right and you stick to it, kudos to you! I dont believe in that though, I feel that sex is a physical interaction with someone much like playing cards. Now, I believe (and this is going to sound corny, what can I say?) that making love to the person you care for and want to spend your life with is something different. Just my 2 cents.

[Legato]

i dont really know the majority opinion, but both me and my girlfriend have agreed that we will not have sex until we are married. its what we both believed before we were dating, and neither of us is changing our mind.

honestly, i think that if we wait, it will make that moment all the more amazing. and i do like how yensed put it. if neither of the two have ever had sex, there is no right or wrong way to them. they both learn as time goes on.

[E.Dan]

Anyone with a simple understanding of history and can see the overall picture knows that society drifts between two forms of sexuality, the Victorian and the Lover. The psychology names escape me at the moment but you can get the gist of what I am stating. If so skip to next paragraph. If not here is an elaboration. The Victorian is a form that oppresses all forms of sexuality and is prudish, as in sex is viewed as evil and there is too much control over the issue that it can lead to psychology problems. The Lover is the absence of control it is the opposite of the Victorian. Examples, Convent = Victorian while Woodstock 1969 = Lover.

As society drifts between the two spectrums reaching a pinnacle or total alignment with one side it throws off that side and shifts back the other way. Where there is too much control people seek freedom and the opposite happens when the role switched.

I think sexuality is completely natural as humans along with every single organism on this planet needs sex to reproduce. It is just we get an added bonus of it "feeling good" in some cases and unlike animals we don't have to it to reproduce but solely for pleasure. It is probably this part of the issue that gets the most attention.

I think though that if people can wake up and realize that sex is not evil even if it was done only for pleasure as there is too much pain in a life that just a brief moment of pleasure is really one of the only things that can get us through this miserable existence called life. All things in moderation though.

[JakeCourtney]

Originally Posted by Legato

i dont really know the majority opinion, but both me and my girlfriend have agreed that we will not have sex until we are married. its what we both believed before we were dating, and neither of us is changing our mind.

honestly, i think that if we wait, it will make that moment all the more amazing. and i do like how yensed put it. if neither of the two have ever had sex, there is no right or wrong way to them. they both learn as time goes on.

Sex for the first time will not be anything spectacular. In fact waiting till your wedding night to have sex is the worst thing you can do. Sex like most things gets better with time. It's often the case that the first times you have intercourse will be some of the worst times. Neither of you will know what to do the first couple of times. Sex is really about experimenting with what works for both partners. Sadly this probably won't happen the first couple of times. There is more likely a chance that you will have a pre-mature ejaculation your first time. Just because you will be so worked up over it.

As you get older you will find that sex is a very important part the relationship. It's also very vital for marriage to function properly for a long period of time. A poor sex life will often lead to divorce. Sex compatibly is something that is often overlooked, but it does exist. Sometimes two people are just not built for each other. If this is the case then a sexual relationship becomes difficult. That is why waiting for sex till marriage could often cause problems later on. It soon becomes apparent that finding out sexual compatibly ahead of time is the better option. If you are young it may not seem that way now, but adulthood has it's own set of satisfactions that need filled. Sex is a very important part of marriage.

I don't believe you should have sex at a young age. Teen pregnancy is a very daunting task for anyone. Just remember that the only truly safe sex is no sex at all. Even with birth control it's still possible to get pregnant. Take for example a women on birth control pills. I've read of cases where the pills just don't function with certain women. I've even heard of more extreme cases where men who had vasectomies have gotten women pregnant.

So just follow this rule of thumb by asking yourself this question. "Can I support a child in the event that I do impregnate my partner?"

I know this is often a hard question to ask yourself in the heat of the moment, but it could make the difference.

Hope I provided some insight.

Cheers,
Jake

[misterk]

Originally Posted by JakeCourtney

Sex for the first time will not be anything spectacular. In fact waiting till your wedding night to have sex is the worst thing you can do. Sex like most things gets better with time. It's often the case that the first times you have intercourse will be some of the worst times. Neither of you will know what to do the first couple of times. Sex is really about experimenting with what works for both partners. Sadly this probably won't happen the first couple of times. There is more likely a chance that you will have a pre-mature ejaculation your first time. Just because you will be so worked up over it.

As you get older you will find that sex is a very important part the relationship. It's also very vital for marriage to function properly for a long period of time. A poor sex life will often lead to divorce. Sex compatibly is something that is often overlooked, but it does exist. Sometimes two people are just not built for each other. If this is the case then a sexual relationship becomes difficult. That is why waiting for sex till marriage could often cause problems later on. It soon becomes apparent that finding out sexual compatibly ahead of time is the better option. If you are young it may not seem that way now, but adulthood has it's own set of satisfactions that need filled. Sex is a very important part of marriage.

I don't believe you should have sex at a young age. Teen pregnancy is a very daunting task for anyone. Just remember that the only truly safe sex is no sex at all. Even with birth control it's still possible to get pregnant. Take for example a women on birth control pills. I've read of cases where the pills just don't function with certain women. I've even heard of more extreme cases where men who had vasectomies have gotten women pregnant.

So just follow this rule of thumb by asking yourself this question. "Can I support a child in the event that I do impregnate my partner?"

I know this is often a hard question to ask yourself in the heat of the moment, but it could make the difference.

Hope I provided some insight.

Cheers,
Jake

I think youve just misled many people to start experimenting and testing/using others for compatibilty. honestly how many people do you have sex with until you find compatiblity??? if you love a person enough to marry them...i dont see how sex with them would be bad.

[Mammlouk]

I am going to have to wholeheartedly agree with misterk. I don't think that so-called "sexual compatibility" should be a consideration in dating before deciding if you love someone enough to commit to them. I understand that some people may not feel like they connect initially, but sex is a growing process. If you love someone enough, you should marry them. As you spend time together you will mature and grow in all aspects of your relationship including sex. It's like anything else in life. You aren't going to be great your first time and you will only get better with practice. Sex should be an expression of powerful love and unity, not vice-versa.