Sex Before Marriage

[mrcc]

The waiting before marriage is based on ur morals and ur belifs. we see the world differintly and we see religion differently also. So if u choose to wait thats fine. if u chose not to wait like i did thats fine too. it doesnt make me less than a man or more of a man. all it means is i had sex before marriage. even though im a christian. i didnt wait for marriage. does this mean im not going to heaven. no it doesnt.

[Zuneologist]

Originally Posted by mrcc

The waiting before marriage is based on ur morals and ur belifs. we see the world differintly and we see religion differently also. So if u choose to wait thats fine. if u chose not to wait like i did thats fine too. it doesnt make me less than a man or more of a man. all it means is i had sex before marriage. even though im a christian. i didnt wait for marriage. does this mean im not going to heaven. no it doesnt.

based upon your thinking, yeah its possible you could go to heaven or not. obviously there are different ways how many people view christianity and its beliefs as well.

[Method of Mac]

Really, we should decree ages when we talk about this subject. There is reality, and then there is fantasy land. In High School / Younger you tend to be a little more footed in fantasy land. In this fantasy land everyone I knew claimed they were waiting to get married, including myself.

Back in Reality (college/beyond) only one of those people actually waited, and they had got married within a year of going to high school, and they still did a whole lot of 'playing' while not having actual intercourse.

This means we also need to bring in definitions of sex too.

You can't fathom how important it is if you have never had it.

[zmatt]

I like sex, nothing wrong with having some fun.

[David]

I think....it's not my problem... I don't care abou them

[DarkTeen18]

Originally Posted by JakeCourtney

Sex for the first time will not be anything spectacular. In fact waiting till your wedding night to have sex is the worst thing you can do. Sex like most things gets better with time. It's often the case that the first times you have intercourse will be some of the worst times. Neither of you will know what to do the first couple of times. Sex is really about experimenting with what works for both partners. Sadly this probably won't happen the first couple of times. There is more likely a chance that you will have a pre-mature ejaculation your first time. Just because you will be so worked up over it.

As you get older you will find that sex is a very important part the relationship. It's also very vital for marriage to function properly for a long period of time. A poor sex life will often lead to divorce. Sex compatibly is something that is often overlooked, but it does exist. Sometimes two people are just not built for each other. If this is the case then a sexual relationship becomes difficult. That is why waiting for sex till marriage could often cause problems later on. It soon becomes apparent that finding out sexual compatibly ahead of time is the better option. If you are young it may not seem that way now, but adulthood has it's own set of satisfactions that need filled. Sex is a very important part of marriage.

I don't believe you should have sex at a young age. Teen pregnancy is a very daunting task for anyone. Just remember that the only truly safe sex is no sex at all. Even with birth control it's still possible to get pregnant. Take for example a women on birth control pills. I've read of cases where the pills just don't function with certain women. I've even heard of more extreme cases where men who had vasectomies have gotten women pregnant.

So just follow this rule of thumb by asking yourself this question. "Can I support a child in the event that I do impregnate my partner?"

I know this is often a hard question to ask yourself in the heat of the moment, but it could make the difference.

Hope I provided some insight.

Cheers,
Jake

Well I agree with legato on this(Legato you know why) yes I know from friends who have had sex that it is better with time. But I think that its wrong for kids who are in high school to go out having sex like crazy, they'll end up gettin a STD or getting knocked up. So I say wait til married

[theDark]

Originally Posted by lpxxfaintxx

Is losing virginity worth the trouble? Sex before marriage can lead to many problems, such as STD's, pregnancies, etc. Even in the Bible it says Sex Before Marriage is wrong. However, most teens lose their virginity before marriage. What do you think about this issue?

'Cause once your married all that stuff goes away does it...
Tbh its just a matter of your beliefs and at the end of the day you should only have sex when both of you want to and are ready to.

[crimsonwolf]

I think it is ok for a couple to have sex even before marriage, as long as they are both sure, safe, and agree to take responsability of whatever happens. BTW, how do you guys write such long essays?

[Soonerchick87]

heh...might be an old topic but ah well. I'll add my two cents.

Coming from a very Christian family it was always shoved on me to not even think about sex before marriage, but as soon as I was 18, that was the first thing to go. Not necessarily because I really wanted to, mostly becuase I was tired of being forced to believe in something I didn't.

And I don't care what anybody says, Mr Jake Courtney up there is right about sex being an important part of marriage. Thats why God wants you to wait. Becuase once you give yourself to that person in that way, it affects you. You can't have casual sex. You may not think so, but biologically those chemicals create emotions, which makes it non-casual.

However, it really comes down to what you feel is right. What you're ok with. And he's right, ask yourself if you're ready to support a kid if that happens. Becuase trust me, its all fun and games until somebody gets pregnant.

And if you get into that situation and still don't know what to do, don't. Wait it out, think about it, talk to somebody...or alot of somebodies. It can be great...but it has to be when the time is right for you.

Just my opinions.

[theDark]

People shouldn't get pregnant unless you want them to. Everyone should use protection and theres no excuse not to, it's not hard to take 20 seconds to put a condom on or for the girl to take the pill...no excuses really

[wizardmt70]

Originally Posted by theDark

People shouldn't get pregnant unless you want them to. Everyone should use protection and theres no excuse not to, it's not hard to take 20 seconds to put a condom on or for the girl to take the pill...no excuses really

Abstinence is the only 100% effective form of birth control.

Condoms and the pill are not 100% effective.

[theDark]

Seriously, don't try and throw facts at me about this stuff. My mums worked in sexual health since i was born, this stuffs been practiacally shoved intoo my brain. Comdons are 99% efective... when the female is on the pill aswell as using condoms the birth rate is 0.000001. Most of the time pregnancys when using condoms are only caused due to improper use of them which is down to people being poorly educated on sex.

[t0aster crumbs]

i'm not married and enjoy sex. i dont see it as anything morally wrong but thats just my view. if you connect with someone strong enough you shouldnt be afraid to experience anything with your partner.

[wizardmt70]

Originally Posted by theDark

Seriously, don't try and throw facts at me about this stuff. My mums worked in sexual health since i was born, this stuffs been practiacally shoved intoo my brain. Comdons are 99% efective... when the female is on the pill aswell as using condoms the birth rate is 0.000001. Most of the time pregnancys when using condoms are only caused due to improper use of them which is down to people being poorly educated on sex.

fact: 99% < 100%

[theDark]

Originally Posted by wizardmt70

fact: 99% < 100%

Really? Wow i did not know that...

[wizardmt70]

Originally Posted by theDark

Really? Wow i did not know that...

glad I could help. ; )

[theDark]

Originally Posted by wizardmt70

glad I could help. ; )

I'm sorry, what way have you helped?

[Trogdor]

I dont like the idea of it
if youre dating someone and have sex its like having sex with someones future wife
and dont want my wife to have sex before marraige of course id forgive her if she did but i wont have sex before marraige
even in a non religous relationship it is still a good idea it just causes future pain and current pleasure like a drug

[theDark]

I disagree with what you say, i respect you oppionion but i don't agree with you. Sex can be an emotionless thing if people decide it is or it can be more than that. If you love the person you have sex with then it seems like the best reason to have sex with them is because you love them, but on the otherhand it could cause more pain if you've had this...attachment, if you will, with them and then the relationship ends, in that respect waiting until after marriage is a good idea as it means the relationship generally lasts longer. My personal oppinion is that sex is only a big deal when people are having it but not trying to avoid pregnancy, I feel waiting until you are married is important before bringing a kid into the world because as I said before, marriages usually last a long time, and it's not fair on the child to be brought up with just one parent.

Just my 2 cents...or pence as it where

[Trogdor]

sex shouldnt be emotionless and i think the people who have it will compare their spouses to their previous partners and that creates more stress in home i can tell my oldest brother isnt boilogical i love him the same but i trust my parents less believe me i dont force people to do anything but really consider what i say for your childrens sake because my childhood sucked