Friend Zone :(

[BroiledVictory]

Originally Posted by frescamoe

I think i'll prolly ask her around chrismas break and because my best friend is making me lol.

Don't procrastinate. That's what sounds like what'll happen.

[Zombii Matt]

Originally Posted by Netrix

I know girls usually like to talk a lot, but if she talks to you for hours at one time, that is a strong indication that she likes you more than just as a friend. That is a really long time to talk to anyone, even a good friend.

QFT

[frescamoe]

Its not like i really have a choice to procrastinate... i won't really be seeing her for another month or two. ..... sad face

[zuneHDblk]

Just do it.

[BlackFox]

Originally Posted by J2800

If you ask her and she says no, your friendship is pretty much over. Make sure that she will say yes before asking.

That's not true in all cases. I asked a girl out at the end of the year, and I was worried whether wwe'd still be friends this year. Turns out it was all good between us. But yeah "just grow a pair" and ask her out. I think that if she's a real friend she'll still be your friend even if she still says no.

[BroiledVictory]

Originally Posted by BlackFox

That's not true in all cases. I asked a girl out at the end of the year, and I was worried whether wwe'd still be friends this year. Turns out it was all good between us. But yeah "just grow a pair" and ask her out. I think that if she's a real friend she'll still be your friend even if she still says no.

QFT

[moyamoya]

Originally Posted by Jesus

Two things wrong with this, A) you're in college... and B) you're asking the internet...

we're still human... and we're better than dr.phil >.>

i agree with charge... take her out, and decide if it was a date later. and remember, even though she's a girl, she's still a similar species. so if your friendship is anything to go by, you'll be fine. and don't pressure yourself about when... do it when you want to, since there is no perfect moment. so don't grow anything ^_^

[Pierce28]

Listen to what was said about long distance relationships. I was in one for a total of 4 months of the 6 months I dated the girl. Long story short: Its hard, its painful, and its just not worth it. Granted, I go to school in North Carolina and she went to school in Ohio... (She lived in NC originally and during the summer)

Also, I've gone through telling a good friend that I've had feelings for them three times now. Honestly, while the best way is to be straight out honest, there is no way to predetermine how they will react. The first girl I told pretty much told me that she knew, but she had liked me but I had taken too long so she moved on. Now, she's like my little sister. I couldn't have asked for a better outcome, especially seeing how she came out last year...

The second girl was ok at first and was happy about it, but then got really nervous about dating a good friend and we decided to call it off. Granted, it turned out to be a good idea since she goes to school in Missouri now, but she's a very good friend now and told me the other night I was her best friend

The third girl.... well... it was just a bad scenario. I liked her, she invited me up to her room, we fooled around... hit second base... then she asked me where we saw us going. I told her I liked her, she told me she wasn't ready for a relationship yet (she had gotten out of a really bad one semi-recently), and after a few days, told me she felt too pressured. So, I told her that we should just be friends.


In a nutshell:
1.) Don't do long distance unless you are absolutely crazy about the girl and hopefully it will only be temporary
2.) You never know how they will respond when you admit your feelings to them, so just be honest, give them a way out so they feel safe, and just give it your best.