Okay to start: this is my first school dance. I'm usually too busy but I decided to go for it this year, being that it's my first year in high school. Issues that concern me:
A.) One of my friends blabbed to the girl I like. The girl thinks I'm a creep now.
B.) Provided my jelly legs allow me to talk to her for more than 10 seconds and I get around to asking her, how should I go about asking her (by the way, she's new this year and I don't really know her well)?
C.) Provided my jelly legs allow me to ask her and she says yes, what is acceptable/unacceptable to wear? Collared shirt and jeans w/ a nice pair of leather shoes?
first off try to talk to her "on a regular basis" meaning when you see her in the morning say 'hey whats up?" then she will say "fine" then you say whats your name then for a small mini convo topic say 'what school did you come from" and so forth ... then say nice talking to you and smile then leave
the next day ask a friend to walk with you across the hallway and when you see her make eye to eye contact and see if she waves or sayns hi... if she does go up to her and say in a calm voice are you going to the dance on friday? if she says yes.. say great me two lets go together.. if she says yes get her number and then say ttyl but if she says no she has a date or if she isnt going say kool have fun or why not? after that say ok kool then smile and walk away
ps if she doesnt say hi back that means she doesnt dig you..
ps if she doesnt say hi back that means she doesnt dig you..
Maybe she didn't hear him then.
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Well see, my locker is on the first floor, hers is on the second floor. My first class is on the first floor and I'm not sure where hers is. I know her name and I know for sure she's going to the dance. Not sure if she's got a date though. I only have two classes with her, so theres not much time for me to talk to her. We have lunch at the same time though and she eats outside a lot so maybe I could follow her out there and sit with her one day...or is that too stalker-esque?
Two classes is plenty, simple convo works. Don't compliment her if anything playfully tease her with confidence, confidence is utmost important. By tease I mean mess with her, not alot maybe three times a week at first. She'll yearn for your approval. After you have that all set up you have to act like you don't like her. A while with that start to be really nice, confession of liking her works sometimes but can creep, try to just be really nice to her. She'll get the hint after you both acknolage your liking she will be down to date, a confession of liking would be asking her to the dance. You follow this and I can promise a girlfriend /date. Be cool and confident!
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Two classes is plenty, simple convo works. Don't compliment her if anything playfully tease her with confidence, confidence is utmost important. By tease I mean mess with her, not alot maybe three times a week at first. She'll yearn for your approval. After you have that all set up you have to act like you don't like her. A while with that start to be really nice, confession of liking her works sometimes but can creep, try to just be really nice to her. She'll get the hint after you both acknolage your liking she will be down to date, a confession of liking would be asking her to the dance. You follow this and I can promise a girlfriend /date. Be cool and confident!
and dress nicely and wear colognealso don't stutter or say ummmm..pretend she is the ugliest girl in the world and your friends dared you to ask her out..
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is it a formal dance or a semi formal? either way no jeans. Wear black slacks when you go to a dance and a nice collared shirt. just add a tie if its formal
Hi,
I seen that you posted this a couple days ago and I hope I'm not too late in responding because then my advice would be useless. I also noticed that I'm the only girl that's offering HER advice on the subject lol... (well I THINK so anyway... I checked who all posted so far and it's all males but one it doesn't say)
Anyway here goes MY thoughts...
A.) One of my friends blabbed to the girl I like. The girl thinks I'm a creep now. Why are you so sure that she thinks you're a creep? Unless your friend told you that she was acting all weird about, or you heard from her herself that she thinks you're creepy, I wouldn't worry about this! I know when I was a freshman if I heard ANY guy liked me, I was kinda flattered! It's a self-esteem boost for anyone, unless she has a good reason to dislike you in the first place... Your friend maybe did you a favor if you're a little shy about letting her know how you feel.
B.) Provided my jelly legs allow me to talk to her for more than 10 seconds and I get around to asking her, how should I go about asking her (by the way, she's new this year and I don't really know her well)? Be straight with her-- don't be fake. Since you already know that she is planning on going to the dance, ask her if she's already made plans to go with anyone. If she says no, then say "Well would you like to go with me?" or "I would like it if we could go together..." I don't know how well you DO know eachother, but maybe you could throw in you guys have some mutual friends going (if that's true), if you think she might be made uncomfortable by how little you know eachother. Make sure to approach her casually, and don't be nervous. The worst that can happen is she'll say no, and you'll never know if she would have said yes if you never ask her.
C.) Provided my jelly legs allow me to ask her and she says yes, what is acceptable/unacceptable to wear? Collared shirt and jeans w/ a nice pair of leather shoes? If it's a formal dance, do not wear jeans. You might be able to get away with khakis but black slacks will make you look better. Wear it with a a nicebutton down shirt (ironed and tucked in lol), and even possibly a tie. Find out what your friends are wearing. If it's NOT a formal dance, maybe something more like homecoming, do the nice jeans thing with shirt and leather shoes.
I hope this helped, and I hope it wasn't too long. I think we'd all like to know how things go!!!
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in my high school the only people who dressed up "formally" were the royalty... i'm sure it's different everywhere. i suppose i should have mentioned this in my post.
Hmmmm, Good advice haleysicle! *runs to ask a girl out* lol. In all honesty I think she's right while it my make you feel bad if she says no it's a hell of a lot better then if you never asked. So go for it! Best of luck and post if you get the date so we can cheer you on!
Also one other thing. If your the kind of person who thinks everyone is watching him and seeing every stupid thing / mistake he does, or always thinks he's not cool enough to do something, AKA not very confident. (like I used to be). Your gonna have to overcome that. For me it just took me just saying you know what **** what other people think if they don't like me, then that is not my problem.
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First, you need to stalk her and find out everything about her...Just kidding, that'd be weird. Bu you should try to get and know her a little better before you do ask her. I asked a girl out and she said she didn't know me well enough.
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and dress nicely and wear colognealso don't stutter or say ummmm..pretend she is the ugliest girl in the world and your friends dared you to ask her out..
Bu you should try to get and know her a little better before you do ask her. I asked a girl out and she said she didn't know me well enough.
