Yesterday, a new kid started at my school. In sixth grade he apparantly had molested a girl and then got sent to "behavior camp" for a year, and now he's back.
I was asking him if he had really molested a girl, and he denied it, but there were several witnesses. I then said "Isn't shoving your hand up her skirt molestation? Just a little bit?" and he proceded to tell me to "f*** off".
My question is, that after I asked him again, he said he was going to "kick my ass" today after school. During lunch I tried to explain that if you go through life beating people up after they offend you, you'll get nowhere (learned this lesson on zB )
His response was, predictably, "f*** off".
My question is, how do I avoid a fight with him and how do I treat him? Should I shun him (he is a molestor after all) or should I try and become his friend? If I fight him, I'll get expelled from the school because I'm on waivers there.
We don't need no education!
We don't need no thought control,
No dark sarcasm in the classroom!
Teachers leave them kids alone,
Hey! Teachers! Leave them kids alone!
All in all it's just another brick in the wall.
All in all you're just another brick in the wall.
You could try not talking to him? And not bringing up any issues he had in the past. If he went to camp he is probably trying to move passed those events and he doesn't need you to bring them back up. You shouldn't fight him because there shouldn't ever be reason for you to do so. Treat him like you would anyone else that you don't know. You don't have to be his friend and you don't have to be his enemy.
Hm. I agree with the not fighting part, I was trying to convince him not to.
I'll try to avoid him and any conflict he may bring, although the girl who got molested told everyone that he was dangerous and that he was a potential repeat offender.
He is friends with the "gangster" kids, and talking to him, he seems like the kind that would still be dangerous.
We don't need no education!
We don't need no thought control,
No dark sarcasm in the classroom!
Teachers leave them kids alone,
Hey! Teachers! Leave them kids alone!
All in all it's just another brick in the wall.
All in all you're just another brick in the wall.
To be honest, you really shouldn't even care. Doesn't matter what the girl said, or who he hangs out with. The more you talk about it and participate in all of it, the more issues that will come up. You're at school. Do what you're supposed to do while you're there and leave all of this childish stuff behind.
We don't need no education!
We don't need no thought control,
No dark sarcasm in the classroom!
Teachers leave them kids alone,
Hey! Teachers! Leave them kids alone!
All in all it's just another brick in the wall.
All in all you're just another brick in the wall.
You should have just kept your mouth shut from the start. You pretty much asked for this to happen.
I'm going to have to agree with Toast on this one. It's like you wondered whether putting your hand over a fire would burn it.
As for a solution, don't just avoid him. That is just part of what I believe that you should do. I mean, if all that you do is avoid him, it may have a backlash effect of him knowing that you're scared.
You need to make yourself look like you meant absolutely none of what you said or some other way to make him have absolutely no opinion of you, if that's even possible anymore.. How you should go about doing this, though, is something that I have no idea about.
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We don't need no education!
We don't need no thought control,
No dark sarcasm in the classroom!
Teachers leave them kids alone,
Hey! Teachers! Leave them kids alone!
All in all it's just another brick in the wall.
All in all you're just another brick in the wall.
T.T., you don't know whether he did or not. I agree with everyone is saying here. Don't bring up those issues.
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And then remind people this is Serious Discussion...
Apathy is your friend, don't bug people and they won't get pissed off and beat you. If a person doesn't respond well to a line of questioning, back off. If you cause them to threaten you, it's pretty safe to say, unless you're in a sitcom, you're not going to convince htem to be your friend, so better have a neutral than an 'enemy'
If he went to a special school or whatever for it, it's 99% likely it's a sore subject, ergo, don't bring it up. If you found out a girl was raped a year ago, you wouldn't bring that up. Especially if you don't know the person.
And if he's hanging out with gangs, he's probably not an ideal friend...
edit: and [CREEPY] Pedophile Problems makes me think something creepy is involved, or a pedo is involved, etc. If he was the same age as the girl, not really "pedophilia" as age appropriate attraction...
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Hes in sixth grade, you in eigth. you should be able to just avoid the kid entirely. It doesn't really sound like you have a big problem, just don't talk to the kid.
And no offense, but it isn't your business weather he did it or not.
6TH GRADE?!!? He's just a little kid! My advice would be to stay away and don't get involved in those kind of people. Why did you get involved in the first place?
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