Meeting Women: The Guide

[lacrosse_man16]

I have noticed on this forum that a lot of you guys are asking how to meet women, either in the shoutbox in PMs or making threads. So I will answer your questions with this thread feel free to add any comments or successes what ever in this thread. I will answer them when I have time if there are questions.

For those of you who envy the guys, who always seem to get all of the ladies without even trying, STOP! Don’t care about what those guys are doing for all you know it could just be because they have already made a name for themselves, or are just hotter or have more money than you. Just face that you will never have something that they have, and if you don’t know what that something is it is acceptance to possible failure. Yes that’s right they have failed many times and are not afraid to be rejected.
The first thing you need to realize is that you do not go to a party thinking that you are going to get a number or some pussy. That will absolutely kill your game in more ways than you can imagine. When you go to a party or just an event where there are females just go because you want to have fun. You will be more confident when you are having fun and confidence is EVERYTHING. I am not going to lie to you though your first couple of attempts are probably not going to go over as smoothly as you had planned, but hey you learned what not to do and a little more of what to do.

Getting Over Anxiety
In order to meet women you must be willing to get denied over and over, the first step though is getting over the anxieties that you will be denied. The easiest way to get over this is to simply not think. Thinking even while talking to the girl for the first 5 minutes will show in your speech. To not really think there is a rule that me and my friends use when meeting girls (this works best at the club but works everywhere once you get it down) once you notice a girl speak to her or let her notice that you are interested in her within 3 seconds of meeting her. If you allow any more time you are more than likely going to think of an excuse not to talk to her.

The Approach
This by far is one of the hardest parts of getting the girl. The most important part of this section is confidence. In order to be confident be in the moment and enjoy whatever it is you are doing to the fullest, and do not care what the guy next to you has that you do not have. Breathe normally and talk loud enough for her to hear you but not to loud. Personality can get you almost any girl. With all that said what the hell do I do next? The first thing you should do is not think about failure no matter who you are you will always have failures. The next thing is when you find a girl and she is rather far away (like within 10 ft) just smile and look into her eyes for two seconds no more or she will think you are weird and no less because she will think you are not interested. You need just enough time to allow her to know you want her and just enough time to read her body language. If she doesn’t look away or make an ugly face then she is interested, if she does the other two things just stay away. There are two things you can now do you can either continue walking and do whatever it is you wanted to do before you saw her and allow her to wonder about this mysterious man (You), and allows you some time to learn a little about her and approach her later. This has some drawbacks and some major plusses the drawbacks are another guy might steal her away, or she might find out some bad things about you and loose interest. The good things about this method are you get to learn about her and for the most part can skip the small talk and get into a great conversation almost immediately. The other choice you have is to immediately go in for the kill (This works best if you are within 5ft of her any farther and it’s just kind of weird. This way is much harder but works. Be confident and do not ask the normal small talk questions she will just think you’re an idiot. Now before you say anything you must know that she for one doesn’t know who the hell you are and for two if she didn’t make eye contact with you earlier she wants to know why you are there and for how long. If you made eye contact with her just mention how you loved her shirt and where she got it from, or just ask her something like “Did you see that fight outside?” (that one only works at the club more than likely you just lied but hey whatever she doesn’t know that and since it’s at the club more than likely you will not know who fought so that makes it easy).

Rejection
You will almost always be rejected at first and often when you are experienced. It’s just part of the game. As a matter of fact last night I had come across a harsh burn by one of the girls you would call a bitch. However I did not show that I was hurt by what she said, truthfully I wasn’t. I could just simply leave her and go to another girl. She straight up said to me
“You are ****ing ugly!”
Naturally I wanted to look into her eyes and say
“Yeah well you’re a ****ing bitch!”
But I didn’t and I would not advise that you do girls talk and saying something like that could haunt you later. What I did say though was
“Comon I mean seriously can you resist this smile?”
And gave her the dorkiest smile I could ever give any girl, and she took the bait and smiled a little. Then the conversations started and I got the number and took her out about a week later. Usually it won’t work that way but its just the mentality of I don’t really care what you said, but I am going to say something polite/corny back just to make sure you know you aren’t getting into my head. Rejection happens guys so get used to it.

Continuing the Conversation
If you have gotten this far congratulations the hardest part is now over!! I really cannot tell you as to what to talk about once you are this far but I can tell you that body language is very important. It can tell you if she enjoys talking to you, if she enjoys what you are talking about and if you should dip out and talk to someone else. If she look around the room try changing the subject of conversation, if that doesn’t work just tell her that you are getting some more punch or something (Do not offer to get her any) and just don’t come back more than likely she was going to leave without telling you anyway). If she is just wierding you out tell her you really liked meeting her and get her number DO NOT GIVE HER YOURS and tell her you promised your friends you were going to Wendy’s like 20 min ago, and never call her. If she is interested or just not giving you any strange body language within the first 30 seconds to 5 minutes you are golden and will more than likely get a number if not more, IF you don’t **** it up. Make sure from the moment you start talking you say something that she can respond to girls love to talk and you are supposed to pretend you care. Always listen do not look off into space she will notice, and that is a bad thing. Occasionally nod your head in agreement or understanding like every 30 seconds or so and do not say “uh huh” or “yeah” this will be misinterpreted to you don’t care. Also within the first 30 seconds to five minutes make some kind of body contact anything from a high five because she said something awesome and it is appropriate to offer a high five to a hug or a brushing of her arm. If you see great potential in this girl but you do not want sex or anything more from her tonight such as a movie if it has only been 5-10 min get her number and give her a hug. If its been 10-20 give her your number (she might not call but whatever there’s more ladies to get) 20+ give her a hug with your arms around her waist and a peck on the cheek, and a number. Then just walk off.
If you are wanting more than a number tonight, depending on what you are doing and assuming its been at least 20 minutes ask for her hand and into her palm softly draw the directions while explaining the roads and landmarks. Doing this allows all of the nerves in her hand to become excited and it shows her that you are 1 confident and 2 gentle.
Throughout the conversations listen to what she has to say. If she says anything sad take her into your arms and tell her everything is going to be ok. If you are standing rub her back and let her go after 5 seconds, and bring up some even that you would like to bring her to or just introduce her to your friends. She will love that you always make her feel better. If you were sitting down take her into your arms tell her everything is going to be alright and play with her hair while she continues talking or while you try to counter whatever made her sad. Once the sad conversations had calmed down do something spontaneous and ask her to dance for example. If she mentions that something hurts offer to give her a massage, that means she wants to be touched. (Please learn to give massages though or you will look like an idiot). If she says something sexual or something that can be taken in two ways say something sexual or just purr then say something sexual or double meaning back. NOT PERVERTED though women hate perverted men. Touch is the most important thing in meeting women and should be used when appropriate, if she looks at you funny or moves away do not try that again or just wait a while before you try again. Do not become scared or take that as she does not like you if she did not like you she would have told you already. Try to talk about things that you can interact with her for example say
I walked into the store and I saw my mom and I hugged her like this (hug her)”
Don’t actually use that line but you get the drift.

This is really all I can tell you on meeting women, the rest is up to you and best of luck to you gentlemen out there.

[SilentWalrus]

I see.
|This will help me out with those girls I met on Runescape.|

[Trogdor's lame friend]

Originally Posted by SilentWalrus

I see.
|This will help me out with those girls I met on Runescape.|

I'm afraid those aren't girls.

[Volpe Sinatra]

Boys, might I remind you that we are in serious discussion.

[monahan]

Throw out most of what lacrosse said there, the fact is that women can smell it when you're just looking for poon, and unless that's the name of the game (i.e. a friday night) it won't wash on any girl that's honestly looking for a decent kind of bloke. The fact is that most relationships these days start in and around the work environment; the reason is, in terms of a longer lasting relationship than a one night stand, it's an excellent environment to do so because i gives you time to get to know each other on a friendlier basis. The key, I've found anyway, is to never go into a situation (whether you're looking for a one night stand or not) looking for a relationship. No expectations of sex or reciprocation give you a more relaxed attitude, and help you appear more confident.

Most women like that.

Of course, the accent helped in America.

[Moth]

Really it's not hard. Be yourself. If you like someones dress, or think someones cute tell them, as a friend/acquaintance. Be someone they like to be around, without sacrificing who you are (ie: change as in not being a jerk, and getting manners, but don't take interest in other stuff or change opinions or stuff to impress them). Display yourself as a person of virtue and you will get respectable women/girls flocking to you, I know from experience. Be friends first, and once your confident your good enough friends that you won't ruin your relationship by asking, you should ask to go further, or at least think about getting the other persons thoughts about it. Often times the hardest part is worrying about making a fool of yourself, and doing so when you go to ask someone out. If you are good friends they will already know who you are and if you goof up, they will realize it's cause your nervous, and it might actually help the situation, and also being good friends first should make it easier, because they'll be easy on you even if they do turn your down in an effort to save their realtionship with you as much as possible, if they value it at all. If they don't value you and you do lose it, there really wasn't much there in the first place.

[mangodroplet]

as a girl, honestly, I just want someone who can be themselves, and make me laugh and be happy.

Really picking up a girl for a one time stand = not worth it.

Just take it slow, but not so slow that she thinks you don't like her.
Honestly, it depends on the girl. You should know a girl good enough to know what she likes/does not like...or else, well, you might want to do more studying

[Weesnaw]

Unless your ugly, the only reason you fail is because you choose to fail.

[Dizzy]

Quite frankly, I feel if I have to waste so much time attracting someone, she's probably not worth my time to begin with.

If she's a bitch, **** her, I don't want to put up with that, no matter how good she looks.