relation ship/friend advice - Page 2

Tobososlow · 03-24-2008, 09:15 AM

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Originally Posted by charmed61

well unlike chriztian i have 1 more year to decide, cause her mom wont allow her to date until she's 16... but thanks for the advices. especially chriztian's help A LOT!

If you wait that long to tell her how you feel she'll have moved on. She doesn't have to say shes "dating" anyone.

mr.handsomeman · 03-24-2008, 09:55 AM

a relationship that long will definitely last something like thi. I mean, it's only natural to have feelings like this towards someone who you've known for this long. it only shows how compatible you guys are.

Azraelw3x · 03-24-2008, 11:08 AM

Ask her! One of my best (girl) friends out of the blue asked me out a while ago and we've been ridiculously happy. Even if it doesn't work out, you'd still be friends if you've known each other that long - it's only if you're casual friends/acquaintances that can make things awkward.

mrs. cutiepie · 03-24-2008, 11:14 AM

i mean, if you tell her you like her, it's OBVIOUSLY going to change the relationship. But, i'm pretty sure that after a 3.5 friendship with this girl, she already knows. and i'll bet you anything she likes you back.

go for it. ask her out. :] dont miss this awesome opportunity. she's single and Hey Guess What? YOU ARE TOO! what an amazing coincidence.

do it. ^_^

Chri(Z)tian · 03-24-2008, 11:43 AM

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Originally Posted by charmed61

well unlike chriztian i have 1 more year to decide, cause her mom wont allow her to date until she's 16... but thanks for the advices. especially chriztian's help A LOT!

Your Welcome! But just because she can't date for a year doesn't me you should wait to tell her in a year. For all you know she could like/love you right now at this very moment!!!! If you wait a year those feelings she might have for you could die out..back to "friend" status feelings. I suggest you tell her A.S.A.P. Plus you never know she might become rebellious and go date some guy behind her parents back. So tell her now while you can! While she's single! But if you don't want to... then think of what your going to say when you are going to tell her. Because it's good to think of ahead and have what your going to say to her in your head before you do so, so you don't freeze or studder when the time comes. But yeah I suggest you tell her NOW!

charmed61 · 03-27-2008, 11:11 PM

stupid stupid stupid stupid stupid me!!! i was so close to telling her!!! right when i was about to ask her i chickened out!!!

it's harder than it sounds to ask her ... ... ... maybe i should wait. i know u all tell me to ask but... it's just so hard cause if i ask her that means there's no turning back, EVER!

BobtheWalrus · 03-28-2008, 07:37 AM

The dating thing until she's 16,

is that a parental thing

or is she Mormon?

Just curious

mr.handsomeman · 03-28-2008, 10:14 AM

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Originally Posted by charmed61

stupid stupid stupid stupid stupid me!!! i was so close to telling her!!! right when i was about to ask her i chickened out!!!

it's harder than it sounds to ask her ... ... ... maybe i should wait. i know u all tell me to ask but... it's just so hard cause if i ask her that means there's no turning back, EVER!

oh man you were so close bro! like right there! MAN! come on, I know we're all telling you to do it, and trust me, when this many people are telling you to do something, it sounds like it would be a good idea right? Come on, I know it can be scary.....
you know what?

try this:

instead of asking her straight out, since you can't seem to do that yet....try holding her hand first. just stand next to her, and slowly grab her hand. Depending on the way she grabs back, you'll know if you should ask her. trust me, I knew my girlfriend three months before holding her hand. and in those three months she became my best friend. But I didn't know if she liked me back...so I grabbed her hand. You don't even have to grab her hand yet...maybe just her fingers...then her hand if it feels right.

hope this helps man!

Rissa · 03-28-2008, 01:12 PM

WHOAH!
who said you had to ask her out?

just tell her you like her!!
things will fall into place.

Chri(Z)tian · 03-28-2008, 02:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Rissa

WHOAH!
who said you had to ask her out?

just tell her you like her!!
things will fall into place.

You don't got to ask her out.. tell her you like her. Then go on and improvise from their. Also a good thing to do is plan out what your going to say and do in your head before you actually do it. Doing this will give you a little boost of confidence..trust me.

charmed61 · 03-28-2008, 06:00 PM

this is so hard... and the holding hands thing... EXTREMELY BAD IDEA!!! if i do that then it's going to be completely obvious that i like her! and yes i know this many people telling me to do it would be a good idea.!

ok maybe i haven't told everyone everything yet. the reason i'm so scared is because the year before last year, the exact same thing happened. i told her i had feelings for her and at first she seemed fine with it and we went out. but then after about 2 weeks thing gone bad and we broke up. now at school we barely even say hi when we see each other... that's why i'm so afraid it's gonna be history repeating again.

ok i know you're not suppose to double post but i dont know how to edit. and by the "she" i'm talking it's another girl, not this girl i have crush on now

charmed61 · 04-01-2008, 05:48 PM

hehe... for the last 2 or 3 days i've been doing my own way. i walked her home everyday and everytime we buy each other ice creams on our way home... hopefully it'll sooner or later be more than a ice cream!

Chri(Z)tian · 04-02-2008, 06:24 AM

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Originally Posted by charmed61

hehe... for the last 2 or 3 days i've been doing my own way. i walked her home everyday and everytime we buy each other ice creams on our way home... hopefully it'll sooner or later be more than a ice cream!

Go Charmed61! Spit dat game!

But yeah seriously that's good, keep doing that until gradually get to the point where you can tell her....remember don't wait too long now..

mr.handsomeman · 04-07-2008, 10:09 AM

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Originally Posted by charmed61

hehe... for the last 2 or 3 days i've been doing my own way. i walked her home everyday and everytime we buy each other ice creams on our way home... hopefully it'll sooner or later be more than a ice cream!

yeah! i love seeing this kind of thing take place before me! this is so cool! Don't wait too long man!

Taylor · 04-25-2008, 01:06 PM

i had a problem that was like yours

me and this girl had been friends for like 2 years and we started dating and for the first month it was cool but then we just decided to be friends.If you do end up dating her and eventually break up with her it might be awkward between you if you both see each other a lot

but i say just go with your feelings

Darth Camel · 04-25-2008, 03:33 PM

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Originally Posted by charmed61

stupid stupid stupid stupid stupid me!!! i was so close to telling her!!! right when i was about to ask her i chickened out!!!

it's harder than it sounds to ask her ... ... ... maybe i should wait. i know u all tell me to ask but... it's just so hard cause if i ask her that means there's no turning back, EVER!

Whoa, calm down there. It's not your fault. It's tough and it's perfectly fine to be nervous. You just have to work up all your courage and tell her. If she likes you then ask her out. If not, then you can just stay friends.

Sapphire · 04-25-2008, 03:51 PM

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Originally Posted by charmed61

hehe... for the last 2 or 3 days i've been doing my own way. i walked her home everyday and everytime we buy each other ice creams on our way home... hopefully it'll sooner or later be more than a ice cream!

I don't have any advice that hasn't been given already-

But that's the sweetest thing I've heard in a while and made me feel all fuzzy inside

AquaToad · 04-26-2008, 08:20 AM

start talkin to some of her chick friends. they will ask her how she feels about u

03-24-2008, 09:55 AM	#22 (permalink)
mr.handsomeman Expert Zuner Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: San Antonio, TX Posts: 3,395 Reputation: 21 $zB: 111 Donate Awards Showcase Total Awards: 2	a relationship that long will definitely last something like thi. I mean, it's only natural to have feelings like this towards someone who you've known for this long. it only shows how compatible you guys are. __________________ To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. Written by the love of my life...thanks Brittany.

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Azraelw3x Experienced Zuner Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 176 Reputation: 13 $zB: 165 Donate	Ask her! One of my best (girl) friends out of the blue asked me out a while ago and we've been ridiculously happy. Even if it doesn't work out, you'd still be friends if you've known each other that long - it's only if you're casual friends/acquaintances that can make things awkward. __________________ To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

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BobtheWalrus Jr. Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Twin Peaks, Washington Posts: 488 Reputation: 15 $zB: 413 Donate	The dating thing until she's 16, is that a parental thing or is she Mormon? Just curious __________________ My Quotes "Life is like a deck of cards, deal with it" "The hardest books to read, are the ones we want to finish"

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charmed61 Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: The Gold Rush State! Posts: 588 Reputation: 3 $zB: 283 Donate	this is so hard... and the holding hands thing... EXTREMELY BAD IDEA!!! if i do that then it's going to be completely obvious that i like her! and yes i know this many people telling me to do it would be a good idea.! ok maybe i haven't told everyone everything yet. the reason i'm so scared is because the year before last year, the exact same thing happened. i told her i had feelings for her and at first she seemed fine with it and we went out. but then after about 2 weeks thing gone bad and we broke up. now at school we barely even say hi when we see each other... that's why i'm so afraid it's gonna be history repeating again. ok i know you're not suppose to double post but i dont know how to edit. and by the "she" i'm talking it's another girl, not this girl i have crush on now Last edited by Rissa : 03-31-2008 at 01:37 PM.

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03-24-2008, 11:14 AM	#24 (permalink)
mrs. cutiepie Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: deep in the <3 of texas Posts: 605 Reputation: 40 $zB: 72 Donate	i mean, if you tell her you like her, it's OBVIOUSLY going to change the relationship. But, i'm pretty sure that after a 3.5 friendship with this girl, she already knows. and i'll bet you anything she likes you back. go for it. ask her out. :] dont miss this awesome opportunity. she's single and Hey Guess What? YOU ARE TOO! what an amazing coincidence. do it. ^_^

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charmed61 Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: The Gold Rush State! Posts: 588 Reputation: 3 $zB: 283 Donate	stupid stupid stupid stupid stupid me!!! i was so close to telling her!!! right when i was about to ask her i chickened out!!! it's harder than it sounds to ask her ... ... ... maybe i should wait. i know u all tell me to ask but... it's just so hard cause if i ask her that means there's no turning back, EVER!

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charmed61 Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: The Gold Rush State! Posts: 588 Reputation: 3 $zB: 283 Donate	walking in the right direction... at last hehe... for the last 2 or 3 days i've been doing my own way. i walked her home everyday and everytime we buy each other ice creams on our way home... hopefully it'll sooner or later be more than a ice cream!

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Taylor Experienced Zuner Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Sweet Home Alabama! Posts: 104 Reputation: 13 $zB: 97 Donate	i had a problem that was like yours me and this girl had been friends for like 2 years and we started dating and for the first month it was cool but then we just decided to be friends.If you do end up dating her and eventually break up with her it might be awkward between you if you both see each other a lot but i say just go with your feelings __________________ "TheFroobPker"

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AquaToad Zune Guardian Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: South Carolina Posts: 703 Reputation: 23 $zB: 403 Donate	start talkin to some of her chick friends. they will ask her how she feels about u __________________ To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. Thanks Man.!

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